I learned from a friend in college that we learn a vast amount of knowledge about what a thing is by deciding what it isn’t. Compare and contrast.
As children, we recognize sweet is not sour. Hot is not cold. Loud is not quiet. Blue is blue… it is not red, yellow, orange, green, purple, black, white, or gray.
At varying stages of our personal development, we will enter what is often considered a “negative” mindset where we reject this and that and that because it’s not what we want. We don’t know what it is that we DO want, but we begin defining it by knowing what we don’t want.
People on the outside don’t often recognize this as a phase, so we are labeled as a negative person.
I think this is what individuation is, though. We participate in the provided systems of our parents, our schools, our jobs, our social groups, and our governments, until we begin recognizing inconsistencies that don’t resonate with our being. Those inconsistencies add up until, partly through the process of elimination, we arrive at a vague notion of a thing we actually do desire and agree with.
So you’re not necessarily a negative person. It could just be a phase.