Not every topic is equally important. You know this. I know this. And yet, millions of trigger happy internet users seem to not.
Choose Who You Are When You Choose What You Do
I could have been a professional sports blogger. In fact, I launched three sports blogs over the past eleven years with the idea of making that my main thing. You see, I love sports. More accurately, I love professional football and basketball. I have my teams and I support them through thick and thin. The die hard fanaticism is so real that I moderate a Facebook group about our hometown teams.
After launching each sports site, I would write faithfully for weeks, but inevitably life would take a turn and I’d end up missing days, weeks, and months of coverage.
Do you know why? Because although I love sports, I don’t L-O-V-E sports. Though my top hobby, it’s not something I want my entire life to be about. So I made a decision to focus my energies elsewhere. I didn’t want sports writing (my do) to become my life’s purpose (my why).
“No” Is As Powerful As “Yes”
Remember that tv show a few years back called Lie to Me? The main character, Cal, could read people’s facial micro expressions and determine whether they were angry, lying, jealous, disgusted, indifferent, or any other number of feelings. I learned from that show that what a person doesn’t say is often more telling than what they do say. The choice to omit information gives us insight into the decision making process.
In a similar vein, what you say “No” to in life can shape your path as powerfully as any “Yes”. Imagine a dozen opportunities arise and you must choose. By saying no to eleven of them, you have given yourself permission to have time and energy to devote to the remaining one.
By choosing to not debate every single topic online, you choose to give yourself time and energy to devote to things that matter more.
What will you say “No” to that will open doors of opportunities for a better “Yes”?